Sanity... or Insanity
A couple of days ago i was sitting casually infront of my TV screen with Leen playing with her toys on the ground infront of my sofa. While flipping the channels i stopped at one that has a program called "words of the heart". The hostess was a young beautiful veiled lady... and infront of her was an older woman who she referred to as "Doctora". I didnt know the interviewed doctor's name and i didnt care. SO i kept it for a while to watch what they were talking about discussing some woman's problem and the doctor said that she has been accussed of being harsh and hard on women... but she isnt and her advice comes from a mothers heart to her daughter!
After a minute or two they got a phone call from a young lady who was telling them her problem and really didnt ask any questions for the doctor to answer.
She went on saying that she was married to a pious man who was very good to her and her children. HE only had one problem.. that when he was angry or nervous he would beat her up! HE would also threaten to divorce her or as we say "yermy 3aleiha el yemeen"!
I dont really recall her question if there was any.. but that was all she said.
The young hostess automatically asked her.. " how can you say he is good to you when he beats you?" and she kept saying that this is the ONLY Problem he has. Now the doctor on the other hand adviced her to NOT intimidate him and NOT provoke him so he wouldnt hit her. The caller said that she doesnt and that he usually apologizes when he beats her and that he regrets it alot EVERYTIME. Then the doctor told her... "so he apologizes.. thats great! He is such a nice man". SHe kept on telling her to be patient with him and since he takes care of his house finanacially and what not then she should strive to keep her house from being destroyed by her own hands!...At that moment i started wondering WHY should any woman in the world bear such treatment i suddenly shreaked loudly saying "WHY..... WHY???" and Leen jumped out of her skin ofcourse.
The 2nd caller called saying that she has a baby boy and her husband is the kind of guy who lets his family dictate his every action and decision (Like so many men we know). The latest problem she faced was him bringing his sister over to their place to stay with her and her newborn because she had rubella (german measles) and he wanted to keep her away from his mother and other sister!!! (ya3ny the hell with his wife and new born). So she told him i cant stay with her. i will go home to my mom and when your sister is better and goes back home i will come back. (Ofcourse this conversation was probably during a fight). This in turn made him beat her, break her leg, and push her out of the house in her sleeping gown and keep her son with him. The caller started crying while telling her story. On the other side the hostess almost cried for the girl.
The witch doctor however told her to be patient (AGAIN) and told her that God is not happy with a woman who keeps her husband unhappy. ANd that she should apologize to him even if he was wrong.
SO basically the woman can be humiliated, beaten, dumped in the street in her night gown in the middle of the night yet she still has to apologize because she SHOULD believe that God will be unhappy with her. Now really... i wanted to slap the lady... and i was so sure the hostess wanted to do the same but had no choice but to grind on her teeth and tell her that this is humiliation.
Just to be fair this lady doctor -who i found out her name and title later from my dad - said to the hostess that not all the stories that she hears on the phone are the utmost truth and that there is always a hidden side to the story that the caller doesnt mention in order to seem like the victim.
But lets get real.. whats the worst things that this wife can tell her husband. You're a butthole.. your a son of a b#$%h... you're a bastard (which he most probably is in these cases)??? Would this be enough to hit her, break her leg, push her out the door??
What kind of guy is that? and what kind of doctor.. woman or man to be honest.. would think this is OK and that the wife got it coming.
Can anyone tell me whats happenening in this world!!!!!!!!
NB. Dr. Suaad Saleh - doctorine in shari'a and alfeqh al mokaaran- Azhar university
After a minute or two they got a phone call from a young lady who was telling them her problem and really didnt ask any questions for the doctor to answer.
She went on saying that she was married to a pious man who was very good to her and her children. HE only had one problem.. that when he was angry or nervous he would beat her up! HE would also threaten to divorce her or as we say "yermy 3aleiha el yemeen"!
I dont really recall her question if there was any.. but that was all she said.
The young hostess automatically asked her.. " how can you say he is good to you when he beats you?" and she kept saying that this is the ONLY Problem he has. Now the doctor on the other hand adviced her to NOT intimidate him and NOT provoke him so he wouldnt hit her. The caller said that she doesnt and that he usually apologizes when he beats her and that he regrets it alot EVERYTIME. Then the doctor told her... "so he apologizes.. thats great! He is such a nice man". SHe kept on telling her to be patient with him and since he takes care of his house finanacially and what not then she should strive to keep her house from being destroyed by her own hands!...At that moment i started wondering WHY should any woman in the world bear such treatment i suddenly shreaked loudly saying "WHY..... WHY???" and Leen jumped out of her skin ofcourse.
The 2nd caller called saying that she has a baby boy and her husband is the kind of guy who lets his family dictate his every action and decision (Like so many men we know). The latest problem she faced was him bringing his sister over to their place to stay with her and her newborn because she had rubella (german measles) and he wanted to keep her away from his mother and other sister!!! (ya3ny the hell with his wife and new born). So she told him i cant stay with her. i will go home to my mom and when your sister is better and goes back home i will come back. (Ofcourse this conversation was probably during a fight). This in turn made him beat her, break her leg, and push her out of the house in her sleeping gown and keep her son with him. The caller started crying while telling her story. On the other side the hostess almost cried for the girl.
The witch doctor however told her to be patient (AGAIN) and told her that God is not happy with a woman who keeps her husband unhappy. ANd that she should apologize to him even if he was wrong.
SO basically the woman can be humiliated, beaten, dumped in the street in her night gown in the middle of the night yet she still has to apologize because she SHOULD believe that God will be unhappy with her. Now really... i wanted to slap the lady... and i was so sure the hostess wanted to do the same but had no choice but to grind on her teeth and tell her that this is humiliation.
Just to be fair this lady doctor -who i found out her name and title later from my dad - said to the hostess that not all the stories that she hears on the phone are the utmost truth and that there is always a hidden side to the story that the caller doesnt mention in order to seem like the victim.
But lets get real.. whats the worst things that this wife can tell her husband. You're a butthole.. your a son of a b#$%h... you're a bastard (which he most probably is in these cases)??? Would this be enough to hit her, break her leg, push her out the door??
What kind of guy is that? and what kind of doctor.. woman or man to be honest.. would think this is OK and that the wife got it coming.
Can anyone tell me whats happenening in this world!!!!!!!!
NB. Dr. Suaad Saleh - doctorine in shari'a and alfeqh al mokaaran- Azhar university
Comments
Why the hell are they broadcasting such rubbish on TV and misleading women!
Good God!!This is appauling!No excuse is good enough for a man to beat up his wife...
I can tell this lady doesn't wanna be accused that she's "betekhreb beit" these girls..that's why on air she just tells them to hang on in there till someone comes and saves them, or until they die or thei husbands die!
Haga zebala.